Okay, I pulled out my copy of Basic English Revisited to settle in my head the question of when to use "who" and when to use "whom."

Basically, substitute the word in question (who/whom) with "I" or "me." If "I" fits better than "me" then it should be "who." Otherwise it should be "whom."

So, in the sentence, "they are going to meet who/whom," "they are going to meet me" makes a lot more sense than, "they are going to meet I." Therefore, the sentence should be, "they are going to meet whom?"

I'm also finally getting my quotation mark and punctuation rules down, so I'll stop being sloppy with my punctuation. Spelling, on the other hand, is another matter entirely.